say anything

on new year's eve, i boldly declared that 2013 was going to be my year.

so far, it has been kind of a tough one.

not just on me, but on a lot of people around me and so many american people.

between the boston marathon bombing and now the oklahoma tornadoes, it is hard sometimes to know what to say to someone who has been affected by a tragedy.

it is hard to find the words when someone you love is struggling and hurting and really there are no words.

as someone who is in the midst of a struggle right now, my advice to a person who doesn't know what to say would be this:

show up and say anything.

silence is deafening when you are in pain.

still not sure of what to say?


let me get you started:

1.)  i'm thinking of you.

2.)  i'm so sorry you are going through this. 

3.)  i'm here if you need me.

4.)  this totally sucks.

5.)  i don't know what to say, but i want you to know i'm here.

then, be quiet and listen.

you may hear silence, because sometimes, your friend just isn't in a mood to talk or they don't know what to say, but now they know when they do want to talk that you are there.

i guarantee that you will have made their heart a little lighter in that moment because you showed up.

so, let's all keep (or start) showing up for each other.

that's what friends are for.

xoxox -